I’m Beastly. Some people call me Alexander Cheves.
I am a writer, editor, copywriter, and illustrator in New York. My writing has appeared in Out, Vice, Them, Plus, The Body, Hornet Stories, and many other publications. In 2016, I started the sex column “Sexy Beast” in The Advocate, the longest-running LGBTQ magazine in the United States. Please check out my work.
In August 2020, I signed a two-book deal with Unbound Edition Press. The first, a collection of essays, is scheduled for release in the fall of 2021.
I’m 5’9″, brown and brown, 50% deaf, and very kinky. I’m sexually fluid, which means I have sex with people I find attractive, regardless of their gender. My community is queer and I love the company of men. I’m an anti-theist and hedonist. My politics lean far left.
After a college breakup, I started this blog and called it The Psycho Ex-Boyfriend — describing myself. A friend told me to switch “psycho” with “beastly,” an English word for “very unpleasant,” which sounded better. I started signing posts “love, Beastly.” Friends started using the nickname and it never left.
I write sex-positive advice for everyone, especially queer people. I am anti-stigma and nonjudgmental. I believe in harm-reduction over abstinence. I do not adhere to any religious moralizing. Gender and ethics are constructs. You are free to ask me anything.
If you have questions about my content or would like me to remove an image, please send me a message via the “Ask Beastly” tab. I will respond within 24 hours on weekdays.
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