There Are No Lost Souls

I respond to ten messages from readers — no questions, just powerful stories and confessions.

When Your Dick Stops Working

Your sexual “usefulness” is not tantamount to having a rock-hard cock.

People Are Not Conquests

Your husband cheated — and now you want to fuck “the other woman,” so to speak. Tread carefully.

The Gods on the Dance Floor

Two questions answered — about the elusive fight for self-confidence, and about what to do when someone withholds their HIV status.

My Love to Femme Tops

Sex gets better when you live in revolt of gender roles.

Head Games

My advice on oral sex, voyeurism, and opening up your relationship.

Welcome to Life, You Dirty Book

It’s here.

You’re in the Club

Hookup apps are just one part of queer life. If you’re bored, delete them.

How a Blowjob God is Born

My tips on getting better at oral sex— but only if you want to be.